Morning routines are so important. They establish the foundation of your day. In earlier posts, I touched on hygiene related morning routines. Today, I’m going to be focusing on a routine that nourishes your mindset.
I think the most important guideline to keep in mind when creating a “positive mindset” morning routine is to TRY TRY TRY. Try everything and then narrow it down to what is effective and works for your life. Go into it with an open mind and you may be surprised at the results. Right now, my “positive” morning routine is still a work in progress. I think I’ve created something that makes me feel more positive and open to positive things throughout my day. I just have to fine tune the timing of everything.
The very first thing I do when I wake up every morning is Pranayama or breath work. I do type of breathing exorcise every single day. I cycle through a few of my favorites so I don’t get bored with my routine. The three I used the most are 3D Breath, Alternate Nostril Breathing, and Color Breathing. If you don’t know what those words mean thats okay! You can look them up and I also plan on making some videos about breath work on our Youtube Channel (Nordic Moon LLC).
Then, I meditate. I either do a simple 5 minute meditation on my own or look up guided meditations on youtube. I also love using apps like Calm and Headspace. I’ll also be creating and posting meditation videos of my own on our youtube channel.
After that, I quickly list of ten things that I’m grateful for. I just do this in my head and name anything that comes to mind. Nothing is too small to be grateful for.
Once I’m done with that I usually do a quick morning yoga routine. Yoga combines physical movement, muscle stretching, and mindfulness. It is a great way to get in exorcise for your body and your mind. I normally just create a routine off the top of my head but I also really like Yoga for Adrienne on youtube.
Then I write ten thank you’s in the notes section on my phone. I did it this way so I could save paper. These thank you notes don’t have to be long. Just ten thank you notes to things or people (including myself) that I am thankful for. I usually try to come up with a specific reason why I am thankful for that person or thing.
Once that’s done I head into the bathroom to start my hygiene routine. On my bathroom mirror I have a few different index cards of affirmations. On the back of each index card I have a description for when I should use it such as “use this affirmation when you’re feeling hopeful” or “ use this affirmation when you’re feeling stuck.”
I know that may seem like a lot. Especially since I didn’t even get into my hygiene routine or breakfast or anything else about my morning. However, I think we as humans often forget that we also need to nourish our mind in order to be healthy. In my opinion, that is the foundation for everything else. When my mind feels better I have more energy to put into my physical, social, and career health.
Thank you all so much for reading. If you’d like me to do a full Youtube video on my morning routine let me know!
Co-Owner Nordic Moon
Emotions get a bad rap.
As a society, we’re constantly trying to lessen them, hide them, reel them in, and alter them. But the thing is: No matter what we do, our emotions will always be there.
“No matter what we do, our emotions will always be there.”
So, why not spend more time trying to get a clearer understanding by building a deeper relationship with them?
I get it — that’s easier said than done. Tuning into emotions can be tricky, and getting to the root of why you’re feeling them at any given moment isn’t always self-explanatory. There’s a lot of, “Where do I even start?”
But one tried-and-true practice that a number of psychologists suggest when it comes to exploring your emotions is writing therapy. More specifically, transactional writing.
Transactional writing, or letter writing, is intended to help us process our feelings. Writing letters to your emotions encourages you to take a step back from a particular trauma or emotions and create perspective — this gives you the chance to examine what it is you are actually experiencing. Research shows that writing about one’s emotions is linked to relieving stress and anxiety.
Writing letters to your emotions encourages you to take a step back from particular trauma or emotions and create perspective — this gives you the chance to examine what it is you are actually experiencing.”
It’s a tactic I personally love. There have been a number of moments in my life in which I’ve felt consumed by a feeling — so many thoughts, worries, doubts, fears racing through my mind all at once.
It wasn’t until I took pen to paper and was able to release these emotions that I finally gained clarity. Writing a letter to my emotions, instead of allowing them to run wild in my mind, gave me a chance to step outside of myself in order to find peace.
How exactly is this done? Well, similar to a traditional letter you can start by addressing it to someone — or in this instance, some feeling. You can, of course, select whichever emotions you feel are most prominent in your life, but a few common ones we’ll dig into are our hope, fear, ambition, stress, and love.
The key to writing letters to your emotions is communicating your thoughts and feelings. To do so, ask yourself intentional questions about how this particular emotion has recently surfaced in your life. Then, write down the answers as though you are talking to the emotion itself.
The next time you’re feeling some kind of way, try breaking out a pen and paper to write your own letter — or, even just draft it in your Notes app. Here, we dig into what five emotional letters could look like.
Hope is something a number of us yearn for in moments of difficulty when we need the will to keep going. Think about these questions: How have you used hope recently? What is it helping you navigate? How can you call on it more?
“Hope is something a number of us yearn for in moments of difficulty when we need the will to keep going.”
“Dear Hope, When I received the difficult news that I was going to be laid off, I had to lean on you to ease my pain. Without you, I don’t know how I’d get through the job search process.”
“Dear Hope, I was recently laid off and need you at this moment. To find you, I’ll have to believe — in myself and that things will be okay. I’m going to work to keep you close so I can stay motivated.”
With emotions like fear, on the other hand, you may find more success by incorporating a 2-step process of transactional writing.
Author of the game-changing memoir Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert, once shared with readers her practice of writing to fear.
“Give your fear the opportunity to express itself by asking, What are you actually terrified about, in this situation?”
She remixes the traditional form of transactional writing and instead begins with a letter from fear. Elizabeth explains that she likes to give her fear the opportunity to express itself by asking, “What are you actually terrified about, in this situation?” She then writes out exactly what is making her feel fearful, which serves as her letter from fear.
In a second letter — written from her to fear — she’ll compassionately acknowledge fear’s reasoning and from there provide it with a solution to help ease her dread.
Her example letter:
“Dear Fear: I recognize and respect that you are part of this family, so I will never exclude you from our activities, but still — your suggestions will NEVER be followed. You’re allowed to have a seat and you’re allowed to have a voice, but you are not allowed to have a vote.”
Ambition fuels the desire you have to meet your aspirations. Ask yourself: How do you incorporate it into your daily life? Is it something you hope to have more of? How has ambition gotten you to where you are currently? When do you feel you’ve needed more?
“Dear Ambition, You push me to go for things that seem completely out of reach — and I may love-hate you for that. But ultimately, you remind me that I’m capable of so much and my ability to go after big things.”
Oh, stress. Stress is something a number of us encounter on a daily basis, maybe even several times throughout the day. What are some things you can say to it to bring more peace to your day-to-day life? What situations bring you the most stress? How has your body reacted to it? In what situations has stress actually helped you in the past?
“Dear Stress, Wow, you’re really showing up today. I know you’re trying to help me get stuff done, but, honestly, you’re kind of distracting me from what I actually have to do. I see you — but I think I’m going to quiet down your voice so I can focus.”
The ultimate love letter: A letter to love. The best example of transactional writing may have to be when R&B artist, Musiq Soulchild melodiously speaks to Love in a song with the same title.
Love Through all the ups and downs the joys and hurts Love For better or worse I still will choose you first
In what ways are you choosing to spread love each day? Who are some of the people that you share the love with or would like to receive more love from? How are you showing yourself the love that you deserve?
Through asking questions that require more than a simple yes or no answer, you can really dig deep into how these emotions play into your life — after all, they are a part of you.
“Through asking questions that require more than a simple yes or no answer, you can really dig deep into how these emotions play into your life.”
By nurturing each emotion, you’re allowing yourself the space necessary to live wholeheartedly.
Defining self-care & its importance.
If you’ve ever been on an airplane and listened carefully to the safety instructions before the flight (I do on every flight like it’s new information😂), you will recall that they advise that in case of an emergency, you are to put on your oxygen mask FIRST before a child or anyone who needs help. While I’ve always looked at that as just a safety precaution, I never realized how relevant it is to daily life. That is why today I find it very NECESSARY to talk about the importance of self-care. Because you simply can’t help someone else if you haven’t helped yourself first.
What is self-care?
Self-care can be defined in a number of ways that collectively mean the same thing. I would define it as: taking the time to take care of you. By dictionary definition, it means: “the practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.” It can also be defined as: any activity you do to take care of your mental, emotional, and physical health. Simply, self-care is what you do to charge back up. It should make you feel better, especially in tough times.
Why is self care important?
I’m glad you asked! When you consistently take care of yourself, you feel better and you are able to accomplish your goals. Self-care also allows you to get to know yourself even more. Whether it be new activities you enjoy, things you don’t like, your limits, and even your triggers, you will have the opportunity to truly understand you. And while you learn yourself, self-care allows you to love yourself. And as I have repeatedly said, self love is the best love! And honestly, your body, mind, and soul just needs it. And as mentioned above, you can’t be there for anyone else if you aren’t there for yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup!
How do you practice self-care?
Well for starters, when implementing self-care, it is crucial that you understand that self-care is NOT selfish! You NEED it to FUNCTION, we all do. But if self-care is something that is new to you, or you want to be more seriously dedicated to it, here are some tips!
- It takes practice! With anything you want to change in your lifestyle, it takes an adjustment. Practice makes perfect!
- Actively & consistently plan it. I plan my self-care in two ways, first I schedule it in my planner, & then I write in a notebook what exactly I want to do, it helps me stick to it!
- Maintain your health. Eating right, exercising, getting good sleep, drinking water, & staying up to date with your doctors definitely help!
- Spend time w/ family & friends. Self-care doesn’t always have to be by yourself, your closest & favorite people can definitely be apart of your self-care plan when you choose.
- Knowing your limits. Don’t push yourself to the point that you can’t handle!
- Know when to say no. Realize that it isn’t always best to say yes to everything & everyone, that can be draining. But do say yes to yourself!
- Don’t forget about your spiritual self. Whatever that may be for you, don’t forget to fuel up! Mine is praying, reading the Bible, going to church, & maintaining my relationship with God!
- Ask for help. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help when you need it, you can’t do it all by yourself!
- Treating yourself as you treat others. If you’re like me, you enjoy making people happy. But sometimes in doing so, you forget about yourself and what you need to be happy. Care for yourself too!
- Love yourself! Love who you are inside & out. Love the person you’re working hard to become. And love the decisions that you make for yourself!
So, as we reach the end, I hope you have learned what self-care is and why it’s so important. And I also hope that you find a way to implement more self-care into your daily routines! So as you know, this is my favorite part, giving you my personal examples of how I practice self-care!
- Taking a (longer than usual😅) hot shower
- Letting essential oils fill my room….I LOVE lavender!
- Listening to music/Playing the piano/Singing
- Treating myself to dinner or dessert…I love a good cheat day!
- Working out
- Taking a nap
- Walmart trip…walking around w/ no intentions to buy, just browsing all the items is very therapeutic for me!
- Spending time w/ loved ones!
- Talking to God/going to church/reading Bible
- Going on a trip
- Catching up on TV shows & especially starting a new Netflix/Hulu binge😅
- Having a drink…I’m a loyal fan of wine Wednesday lol
- Putting my phone on do not disturb/staying off social media
I do not do all of these things everyday, some are more special occasions! However, a lot of these items are in my everyday routine & are important to me and how I function!
As always, thank you so much for staying tuned another week! I hope you all find more amazing ways to practice self-care. I also want to shoutout my job, because I work in the mental health field & times can be emotionally draining & stressful. But here is where I was required to create a self-care plan. And while I was already doing some of these activities, I now pay more attention to it! *all images from google* be back next week✌🏾
am I the only one who’s effortlessly drinking loads of water and getting super dry skin these days?! it’s insaane!
The winter is hot and it’s cold this year and here are some of my favorite things to keep around:
* a moisturizing body cream that smells orangy ^.^
- ginger milk and honey for that sore throat and upset stomach (this too smells AMAZING)
- * a deep burgundy sweater that makes you want to hug yourself to feel the softness (not out of self-love)
- * fluffy socks -obv.
- * oh and Pinterest because it teaches you how to actually get a life and do stuff, I’m addicted! -to the scrolling not doing 🙂
— What’s in your winter survival kit? .
The following post is by Maryam Al-Khawaja, Internet Freedom Festival’s new Mental Health Coordinator. She will be responsible for coordinating a series of sessions and tools focusing on self-care and well being, and advising the IFF Code of Conduct Committee.
As activists, self care and wellbeing does not usually take the lead when it comes to our priorities.
We tend to prioritize our work, whether it’s out of guilt, a sense of responsibility or merely for practical reasons. Dealing with everyday realities of activism, be it lack of resources and funding, being overworked and underpaid is not unfamiliar to many in our activist community.
How many times have you or a colleague said, “There’s so much to do and not enough time to do it”? And work is just the tip of the iceberg. I say this because I am very familiar with the fact that our struggles come on many different levels. I’ve already written about dealing with survivor’s guilt and loneliness.
But I know that it goes way beyond that — especially for the womxn activists.
We have to deal with struggling against the powers that be, while fighting patriarchy — many times within our own circles — as well as dealing with the so many personal battles we face every day. Everything from sexual harassment, to blackmail and sexual assault. We saw the amount of womxn who participated in the #MeToo campaign — but what we didn’t see were those unable to take part. Those who whispered #MeToo to themselves, while feeling the triggers of reading post after post after post from the campaign.
I look around me today and I find that so many of my colleagues are burnt out. They’re exhausted, and rightfully so.
In 2017, human rights internationally are regressing. While we spent the past years fighting for progress on rights internationally, now we’re fighting to hold on to what we’ve already achieved. This is a situation that unifies the entire world. Which also means that now, more than ever, it is important to focus on our community health. It is at times like these that I remember what my father, who is a human rights advocate serving a life sentence, told me multiple times:
Take care of yourself, or else you will not last long, and you will be unable to take care of anyone else.
This is why I am pleased to join the IFF team to help lead on community health, and to make sure we develop a space during IFF focusing on self-care and well being. When we talk about community health, that includes the self-care and well-being of both the individual and the community as a whole. I will bring my own personal experience of dealing with the day to day struggles of being an activist, whilst also being open to learn and listen to the experience of our community.
And what better to end than with the quote of Audre Lorde:
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
Maryam Al-Khawaja is a Bahraini Woman Human Rights Defender, and is the founder of Al-Khawaja Consulting, where she works as a human rights consultant and trainer. Al-Khawaja is on the Board of the International Service for Human Rights and Urgent Action Fund. She previously served as Co-Director for the Gulf Center for Human Rights and as Acting President of the Bahrain Centre for Human Rights. Al-Khawaja played an instrumental role in the democratic protests taking place in Bahrain’s Pearl Roundabout in February 2011, which triggered a government response of widespread extra judicial killings, arrests, and torture. Due to her work, she has been subjected to assault, threats, defamation campaigns, imprisonment and an unfair trial. Over the past years, Al-Khawaja has emerged as a leading voice for human rights and political reform in Bahrain and the Gulf region. She has been influential in shaping official responses to the atrocities in Bahrain around the world by engaging with prominent European and American policymakers. Al-Khawaja has received numerous awards for her human rights work, including the Rafto Prize.
When black people die, the chicken seems to arrive in one quantity: too damn much. We are determined to defeat grief with food. Chicken to be exact. Chicken is our hostess gift, as customary as gifting flowers. And no, all black people don’t eat chicken. There are plenty of happy melanin bellied vegetarians and vegans among us. But generally speaking, fried chicken is our grief cuisine.
Wring The Neck
“He said I was yelling about lettuce in my sleep. It’s because of the chicken.”
One of my best friends recently suffered a loss in her family. The death sits atop a pile of misfortunes that occurred within our social circle this year. Mamas died. Daddies died. Aunties and uncles died. Some got sick, or at least sicker than they were before. And this is not to say that nothing good has come of this year. It’s not to dwell on negative things.
Grief is epic and epidemic. It drifts about like a storm cloud, waiting to drown everything in its path.
And then there’s the chicken. People bring it by the pound, or by the pieces to be exact. 25 pieces, 50 pieces. Enough to eat at the repast, and still have plenty left over to feed loved ones who have traveled to pay their final respects. So when my friend messaged me post funeral to say that her fiancé had heard her yelling in her sleep about lettuce, I laughed because I knew precisely what she meant.
Last Spring I messaged a few friends asking if they wanted some leftover chicken. I was left with more than my family could or would eat after my father’s repast. So I lined my freezer with plastic bags filled with fried chicken, and bags with cakes wrapped neatly in foil. Some cakes so large and decadent that I had to slice and package them in portions before freezing. I told myself that I was doing all this because I hated to waste perfectly good food. But if you could have found a conduit to the basement of my soul, you would have encountered someone who looked just like me. She would have told you a different story. One about how I couldn’t physically bear to throw away food from the last event we would ever give for my father.
With what we know about the rampant rates of high blood pressure, diabetes and cholesterol in the black community, it can’t possibly be the best idea to sit in the wake of death, the trauma of funeral planning, the heightened sense of pain, and eat fried chicken. We need water, rest and vegetables. We need food that fuels our abilities to return to a world that assumes we’re the same people and employees we were before our hearts were ravaged by loss. We need healthier grief cuisine.
Fried chicken tastes delicious and it keeps in the fridge longer than a fresh vegetable or fruit dish. I get it. We’re maximizing our dollars. We don’t want to give a struggling person food that will perish the next day. But suppose we prioritize our health and well-being over convenience? I’ll be the first to admit that it’s not as easy as it sounds. Limited finances and limited access to fresh produce make it increasingly difficult for poor black people to eat healthfully. Still, I think that we can take some small steps toward creating better habits. Doing so is absolutely critical to our well-being.
My friends and I have been burying relatives and extended family who haven’t even turned 60 years old. It’s draining us mentally and physically. It feels debilitating at times. We’re becoming caregivers well before we expected, before we’ve even had or raised our own children. Our parents, most of whom are Baby Boomers, are suffering from health conditions caused by stress, poverty and environmental factors. And the trickle down of racism. Thankfully though, we’re finally beginning to publicly acknowledge mental health disparities in our communities, a huge breakthrough in the quest for black wellness.
As a professional in the field of aging and a former caregiver, I’m relieved to see more and more black people take charge of their wellness. We’re starting to recognize that our experiences aren’t just difficult. They’re plain old traumatic. And we need a combination of resources and services to guide us, because there’s no magic pill that will fix this. Therapy, spirituality, nutrition and positive socialization are just a few areas that we can combine to create a more full wellness experience. If we’re gonna bring the chicken, then let’s bring the salad. If we’re gonna bring the chicken and salad, then let’s bring the yoga mats, the prayers, and the referrals to culturally competent clinical professionals who are waiting with open offices to help us through our grief.
Cook And Serve
I gave away as much chicken as I could after my father died. When I was left with just one freezer bag, I took it to work and stuck it in the back of the freezer. Later, during one of my low weeks when it was all I could do just to make it to work (let alone pack lunch), I sat at my desk in the afternoon and suddenly remembered something. I took my time walking to the work freezer. I took out the perfectly frozen bag of chicken. I warmed up two pieces and sat in my office with it, remembering all of the people who surrounded my family with love and food in the midst of our storm.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about why we do certain things in our relationships and as parents. I’ve been digging into why I do them, why Adam does them, and whether or not I want our kids to see these attitudes and behaviors.
“The Mental Load Of Motherhood” is having a moment. You can find article after article about the tool it’s taking on mothers, on relationships. You can find studies about how much a mother’s work is worth on the open market. You can find blog posts from moms desperate, angry, shocked, and in pain because of choices we had no idea we were making.
For me it’s a little different. Adam and I didn’t have your normal courtship and marriage and honeymoon and then kids. We had our first date in June and found out we were pregnant in November. Our soon was born six days after our first anniversary.
I’d also developed depression and anxiety during my pregnancy and we went through a birth experience that was traumatic for both of us.
We never fell into the habit of me doing everything because I simply couldn’t. Adam changed the first diapers, did the first loads of laundry, had to learn quickly how to care for me and for our son because I was spinning through a deep, deep darkness.
Although I’ve recovered through years of therapy, medication, and support and even thought we’ve had a second child and I’ve built a business and we’ve moved across the country — there are still shadows in our relationship from those early days.
My perspective on the mental load is a little different.
We have to balance my triggers, his triggers, old fears and resentments, growing children, learning new things about each other, cultural differences, and all of the bullshit that comes with living in 2019 and being relatively awake and aware. Issa lot, y’all.
We fuck up. We fight. We shut down. We both react to things in ways that have a lot more to do with our past than our present. We’re working on it.
The more that I center myself, my wants and needs in our life and the more honest I am with him about all of it the better our lives work. Maybe not in the moment — not all honesty is happy honesty. But I’ve realized that fuming inside my head, stomping, door slamming, the silent treatment, being pissed because he doesn’t know things or doesn’t do things — none of that actually works or changes anything.
No matter how obvious I think it is, he can’t actually read my mind.
And he doesn’t see things the way I do. Sometimes he literally doesn’t see the same thing that I do. While we have the same dreams for our family, the details and specifics for each of us are sometimes radically different.
We have to define our terms. And keep defining them.
We have to say it out loud. (Or email — we usually email)
We have to be okay with not being okay for a while. It has to be alright that he’s pissed off at me or that I’m pissed off at him. We can’t be afraid of that or we won’t move forward, we won’t grow.
Mothers keep asking me how to put down the mental load that they’re carrying. How to more evenly divide it between them and their partner or spouse or family. But we have to start with the why.
Why are you carrying what you’re carrying?
Can you be honest with yourself and with the people in your life about it?
We have to deal with the why so that we can tackle the how. There is no trick. There is no magic pill. There is no one conversation you can have that will change something that has been created by outside society for centuries and by you in your relationship for years.
Adam and I have been consciously doing this work for years and there is still more to do. I’ve been working with clients on this for years and there is still more to do. But the amazing thing is this — you get to design your life. Each and every one of us — we get to make choices every single day.
We can choose to be honest. We can choose to have the hard conversation. We can choose to get support.
We can choose to go past the how and dig into the why.
Breaking down some of the stigma surrounding STI testing and easing some of the guilt or shame people experience when getting tested or receiving a positive result. For International Self-Care Day, take care of yourself and get tested!
This month, Eve Kit is focusing on self-care. Self-care is an all-encompassing term meaning to do things for yourself that will improve your overall mental and physical health. This could mean hitting that yoga class, giving yourself a much needed facial, practicing mindfulness, or sleeping in on the weekend.
Another important part of self-care is ensuring you are engaging in activities that include health promotion, such as getting routine STI testing. This should be done at some frequency when sexually active — whether that’s every three or six months, or even annually. Unfortunately, there continues to be a stigma around getting tested. So much so, that many individuals don’t want to get tested with their family physician or nurse practitioner — or even attend an STI clinic, because they feel that a positive result reflects poorly on them, or makes them “one of those people.”
What I would like to aim to do in this article is to break down some of the stigma and hopefully make it a less daunting experience. Don’t get me wrong, I understand it’s probably never going to be something people look forward to doing, but by opening the conversation about it, we can start easing some of the guilt or shame associated with getting tested or receiving a positive result.
I recall a client coming into clinic several years ago to get tested. She was a 20-something year old university student, and when she entered the room, she was as white as a sheet — I thought she might pass out right then and there. I asked her what brought her in, and she described her experience of “hooking up” with this “cute” guy that she had crushed on for quite some time, only to wake up the next day with utter panic that she was going to have an STI. When I asked her why this was such a difficult experience for her, she responded,
“because if I end up having an STI, no one will want to date me…I will be considered promiscuous and I could never call my ex and tell him — I would just die of embarrassment!”
Sadly, this sentiment wraps up how most people feel when they are getting tested or waiting for results.
The truth is, anyone that is sexually active (even if it’s just once) is susceptible to STIs, because STIs don’t discriminate. Interestingly enough, online dating — a great way to meet new people — has increased the rates of STIs in Ontario, and increases the chance of being positive. Not to be the bearer of bad news, but it’s the reality — and everyone should consider regular testing.
If you do take the leap and get tested you will hopefully be in an environment with a compassionate clinician who will extensively counsel you on risk factors, types of testing, how to get your results, and what a positive result will mean.
In my clinical experience clients have a wide range of emotions when it comes to a positive result. Most often clients are positive for chlamydia and/or gonorrhea, two of the most common bacterial STIs. So why is it that people feel so hurt when they receive a positive result, especially considering both of these infections are curable with single doses of one or more antibiotics?
It’s simple. STIs have a long history of being associated with having many partners, which has often been considered negative, and fuels stigma.
Here are some common reactions I have heard. Hopefully knowing that others have felt the same way will help to validate these feelings, if you experience them — while at the same time, help to let them go, and focus on getting healthy.
“I can’t believe my partner cheated on me.”
“I knew there was something wrong with them.”
“What does this mean for our relationship?”
“No way I’m telling that person I’m positive, they probably gave it to me.”
A few key facts to remember to combat some of these feelings:
1. There is absolutely no way to tell that someone has an STI. There are no specific “types of people” who get STIs. As mentioned previously, they do not discriminate.
2. Many people don’t have symptoms from STIs, and because of this, often folks unknowingly transmit STIs to one another.
3. The most important consideration is that because many people don’t have symptoms of STIs, they may have acquired it months or even years ago. This means that they may have had the infection long before your relationship, but had never been tested. Therefore, it is difficult to figure out where the STI came from.
The point I’m trying to make is, would you judge someone for getting strep throat and needing to take antibiotics? No, likely you would not. So then why do we shame each other for getting an infection that is associated with sex? I want to be clear, it is very important to practice safe sex, but if you take anything away from this article, let it be that there is no shame in getting tested, and there should be no guilt felt from receiving a positive result.
Questions and comments are always welcome!
Mia Biondi is a PhD in Microbiology &a Registered Nurse. She strives to focus on safe sex-positive practices, decreasing stigma around infectious diseases, & improving open communication between clients and healthcare providers.
Editing and contributions by Elyse Erickson, a holistic business mentor and sales professional with a passion for helping people work towards health and happiness.
This week, Iceland’s frosty beauty captures our wanderlust as we lament the strong likelihood it will soon melt away. Plus, we explore the bizarre charm of the world’s most extreme marathon, take a trendy sound bath in New York City, and choose brains over brawn in our exercise routines. Finally, we examine the narco narrative of ‘Kingdom Cons’, and catch waves with pro surfers in Bali.
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While regular physical exercise is obviously beneficial to physical health and wellbeing, what exercises have the best long-term effects on the brain and cognitive function?
A look at what may be the toughest race on the planet.
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The Mexican novelist’s debut novel, his third to be translated into English, is set in the court of a drug lord.
How resonation-based meditation has become a noteworthy trend.